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Such a difficult topic, with so many nuances. Having lived it though, I can only say that I have come through with the firm conviction that choosing life is invariably preferrable to choosing death.
Contrary to public belief, the times in which the life of the mother and the life of the baby are weighed one against the other are extremely rare. They are weighing, in most cases, the idea of an easier path against a harder one. The problem though, is that there truly IS no easier path!
When unexpected pregnancy, or a devastating prenatal diagnosis occurs, the bad thing has already happened. You are where you are, and the pain and heartbreak are inevitable. You cannot escape them. For whatever reason, this is what has come into your life.
The myth is that you can end a life and somehow make your life better. You cannot. There will be a price either way. Those who say they aborted a child and have no regrets deceive themselves. Mental health studies bear this out unequivocally. In fact, research indicates that those who end a pregnancy due to fetal abnormality suffer more than those who abort because they did not want the baby. Either way though, damage is done.
People who abort become harder. They cannot help but have their appreciation for life dulled if they are to live with such a choice. It is illogical to assume that a choice that has such great impact on the natural course of life could happen without repercussions. To participate in the death of one's own flesh and blood, when every natural instinct cries out to nurture and protect that life, wounds the soul in unimaginable ways. Scientific theory cannot state that we have a common goal of the perpetuation of the species on one hand, and state on the other that we could interfere with that goal with impunity. It is illogical and absurd to take such a position, it makes neither natural, ethical, nor spiritual sense.
I chose life for my daughter. We were told that she could not sustain life outside the womb, even though some children with her condition have. We felt that even if there were the tiniest chance, that she should be given that chance. We wanted HER to determine the course of her life. We just did our best to listen to her. When it was time to let her go, we knew without doubt, and were able to let her go. It was not our choice to end her life before we had the chance to know just who it was that we were affecting. Her life, though all too brief, has affected people around the world in a way I would not have believed had I not witnessed it first hand. Indeed, I had heard other parents of children who died in infancy or who were stillborn say the same thing, and simply could not comprehend how that could be true.
For more complete support and coverage of this topic, please visit our Carry to Term site, at http://www.carrytoterm.org/ . It is not our word only, many others will bear out the truth of the value of the lives of our most helpless citizens.
And our admiration and support goes out to those who are now making the hard choice. The decision to carry a child when the faulty logic of those around them seeks to persuade them that somehow there is an easier way, that a price need not be paid. Pain most certainly awaits you. But you will have peace that those who make choices in haste and misunderstanding will be denied. Being able to look back on your choices and have no regrets whatsoever is something that no one can underestimate the value of.
Other Sites of Interest
Natural Diabetes Control - Lots of strategies
Reluctant Redneck - City kid moves west.
MegaFamilies - Large family support site.
Leah After Judah - Secondary Infertility
LoveIs Archive - Celebrating Simple and Extraordinary Acts of Kindness.
Carry to Term with a Negative Prenatal Diagnosis
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